how we operate - part deux

well - not much interest in sharing your opinion of the lyrics...

i guess i'll just forge ahead and tell you what the lyrics have me thinking and why they've stuck with me so profoundly over the last several weeks.

to me, it's clear that this song is about a fight/disagreement/argument/squabble between lovers. he said something he shouldn't have, she fought back, it didn't end pretty. now, he's coming back to her and trying to find a way for the two of them to come back to one another.

he reassures her - you're true, you are. in other words, i'm sorry i questioned your trust/loyalty/love. i'd apologize but it won't go very far - at this point i've done things that i know even an apology won't really repair. isn't it true that sometimes we say and do things to those that we love the most that once they've come out, been said, been done, there really isn't an apology that covers the wound that you've inflicted? maybe you didn't mean to do it, to say it, to infer it, but regardless of your intentions, you did do that thing that got you here and instead of apologizing or making up some excuse for yourself, what you really must do is rely on the love that the other person has for you. they either know and trust your intentions, or they don't.

this happens to me all the time. i do things or say things that come across to the one i love totally not the way i intended. but it's not really me that matters in that moment, is it? if i truly love him, why don't i think more about him and his perspective than my own? and why do i insist on defending myself over and over instead of really listening and trying to see things his way?

that's why i love this line - turn a new page, tear the old one out and try to see things your way. see, it's not enough to just turn the page, you've got to rip it out of the book and stop referring back to it. it doesn't help. give it up. try to see things through the eyes of your lover. love him or her enough to give up your selfish ambitions and desire to protect and try to see things their way...

i also love this line: when we collide we'll see what gets left over. isn't this how we discover how much we really love one another? truth is, we're going to collide, but it's what gets left over that shows the truth of the love that you share with the other. sometimes you collide and what is left over is a pit so deep that it cannot be repaired and the relationship ends. but sometimes you collide and what gets left over is two people saying that they really love each other and that they know that it wasn't your intention to hurt them the way you did... but you did. but guess what, all these little deals go down with little consequences... in other words, these things are rarely as big as we make them out to be in the moment. tomorrow we'll wake up and remember the joy that this person brings to our life and we'll forgive, tear the old page out, and move on.

i'm gonna love you anyway.

to the one i love - thank you for always believing i'm better than the way i treat you.

remember this - a favorite quote of mine from a movie called "the last kiss:" what you feel only matters to you. it's what you do to the people you love. that's what matters. that's the only thing that counts.